I've been seeing a few posts in this style pop up lately (1 + 2) & I loved reading them so much I decided to write one of my own. There are quite a few things I would like to go back and tell my younger self (like maybe dying your hair Ariel red wasn't such a great idea) but the five items below are what I consider pretty important.
Spend time being your own best friend Something I wish I had been privy to early on in life is realizing the importance of independence and taking care of you. Relishing alone time (and more importantly being comfortable being alone). Figuring out your likes + dislikes because they're specific to you and not what everyone else is into or trendy. The latter part of my twenties was when I really started to hone in on this stuff and feel truly comfortable in my skin.
Your heart will get broken...a lot Oh, and how it will hurt each and every time. But don't be discouraged or embittered--love will find you a couple of times and it will all be worth those tears and lonely nights because each time you collect another little piece of the puzzle to what a real, raw relationship is. Fall in love with as many things as possible and always tell people how much you love them. You will love to love and that is a beautiful, unapologetic quality.
Not everyone will like you & it's okay You will encounter people who don't like you for their own reason or sometimes even no reason at all and it will make you sad, but that's okay. The important thing is that you like yourself and that you treasure the people who lift up your spirit. Nurture those relationships, because they make life that much sweeter.
Listening is just as important as speaking up You are naturally born both curious and a chatterbox. You will grow to have opinions as strong as you are and this sometimes comes off as abrasive. Remember to close your mouth and open your ears and heart when it's someone else's turn. Patience is something you will struggle with but eventually conquer with your good intentions.
Above all, family first Spend as much quality time as possible with your relatives. As the oldest of 5 sisters, they will all look up to you and one day (even though you will want to kill each other during your teen years) your mom will become your best friend. Your dad will be in and out of your life for various reasons and it will shape you as a daughter and person. Try to remember people make mistakes and to keep forgiveness in your heart and in the words on your lips. Luckily you are Mexican which means there will always be someone to play in the yard with, come over and bring you medicine when you're sick, host your birthday party and sing tequila shot-induced Spanish ballads with. The saying "blood is thicker than water" rings true.
Are there some things you wish you knew then that you know now? I'd love to read what you'd tell your younger self so if you post your own notes, share the link in the comments.